Yes. Its true. Many working women I know share this opinion. Specially those with kids.
At office, I work a limited number of hours. Even if it sometimes becomes 12-14 hours a day. And I get paid for it. In cash. In a typical day, I juggle 5-10 issues. Even at the peak of multitasking, it doesnt exceed 20 different issues a day. At office, you work with other professionals. They are literate, educated, capable & responsible – other than the occassional nitwit you wish didnt exist. People with whom you atleast share a language. I have a clean space I can call my own (yes, my cubicle is clean and uncluttered! 😉 Its air conditioned. There’s a steady supply of tea and coffee and fruits and munchies in the canteen that I can just pick up. I dont have to bother about keeping it stocked. Neither do I have to bother about the water, or electricity or cleaning. Caterer brings the lunch and no one makes you get up in between a meal. I just need to do my job, everything else is taken care of by other people.
In contrast, at home, there are always 10 thousand things screaming to be taken care of. Always. Immediately. Mornings are always a mad rush, preparing for the day. I’m grateful for a 4 burner stove (ah the small mercies of life!) -boiling baby’s bottles, his water, boil milk, make tea. In the meanwhile, fill drinking water, cut veggies, keep an ear out for baby. Make breakfast, have tea, feed baby, take baby for a walk, make phone calls to check for maid, plan out the days feedings, express milk, get stuff ready for baby massage, bath. Soak clothes for the machine. Fold baby clothes. Wash clothes in machine. Remember baby medicines. Feed baby again. Keep stock of groceries, see whats getting over, check what other misc things need to be done – call plumber, electrician, get mixie fixed, follow up abt home loan, pay bills, call old maid, get doc’s appointment, put phone to charge… tell maid to keep baby warm, wash xyz clothes in a particular way, remind her to make sabzi thaat way. .
You get the picture. Its an endless list. Always 10 things going on in parallel. You have to time it right. Forget one thing, and it messes up not just your day, but the kids as well. And if you forget to restock ur cabinet, no munchies, no tea. Leave the gas on just 2 minutes too long, and the sabzi’s burnt. And you get scolded for multitasking so much. HD “Do one thing at a time. Never leave the gas on and move away”. Helloo.. if I followed that advice, the housework would never get done.
And the people you have to interact with – plumbers, electricians, maids, watchmen, milkman, paper wala, etc etc. Not very literate. Not very smart. Being in bangalore, I have a language problem more often than not. You give instructions – they dont understand. once, twice, 10 times. Or deliberately dont follow. Dont turn up on time – ever. Even after 10 reminders. Plumbers n electricians and all such handymen – You wait and wait and wait and keep calling and waiting for a week. Maids go off on vacation without informing.. and blah blah blah.
If u’re hungry – make something yourself. No munchies in the house – no one to blame but urself. A peaceful cup of tea – no chance.
Aahhh.. its so nice to come in to office each day!
Most working women I know identify with this.
Men shake their head and wonder what all the hullabloo is about.